What are yours and her expectations about jobs?
Russian women (mostly), especially the young ones, are very well educated, probably with a University degree and that is the type of women most Western men are looking for.
Many of them have already good positions in their country but in general, apart from those living in Moscow and St Petersburg are not well paid and do struggle to make ends me. This of course is not 100% true too because there are several well off families supporting their children and
Cheesy looks that he had good luck finding good tourist guides who could afford to drive him around in their cars.
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When these women meet a Western man, obviously are looking for someone who apart from his good looks and willingness to travel to meet her, will be able to support them and probably the family, financially during the period of adjustment in the new country.
Oh yes don't make a mistake and think that you are hopefully will be getting married to a
Smoking hot kova and rescue her from her miserable existence and shit-hole place (to use Donhollio's favourite word) but like it or not also her parents and family too. What you need to know is that the Russian families are very close and supportive to each other and Russian women, your future wife, always will be thinking about them and feel guilty for leaving them behind without their support.........
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If you are looking for happy and succesful relationship with your future wife then you should take that into consideration and include support for her parents in your financial plans.
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After all if you can't afford to send back home £200 - $300 a month then you will be not be a well thought off and carry not a lot of respect if you can't be that strong man in her eyes.
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Having said that Russian women and I mean most FSU women, are hard workers and will do the best they can to help and support their family and husbands once they come over here. Of course it is down to you to prepare her for her new life in the new country.
Here I will interject the words from an American fellow from another place to give some better idea of what it's expected from you posted here:
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Unreasonable expectations of life together in a new culture can lead to some interesting and possibly devastating consequences. The ability to prepare a Russian lady for changes in lifestyle hinges on the man's honest portrayal of his true situation in life. Yet, even with full disclosure there is a good chance that some unreasonable expectations will linger in the mind of a Russian lady until she has experienced the new culture first hand. More than likely, your lady will not be the only person with unreasonable expectations. Western men usually hold some unrealistic opinions as well.
America and the Western world are not really similar to what is portrayed in most movies and television programs. Unfortunately, the media is where most Russian women get their opinions about life in the west. It's unavoidable, but true.
One of the biggest mistakes that Russian women make it's not to think carefully the consequences of their move to the west and their ability to adjust quickly here. Many of them hardly speak elementary English and think that very quickly they will be able to speak fluent or very good English after they arrive here. The truth of the matter is that if your age is over 20 years old, you will definitely struggle for very long time to improve your ability to speak the language and more importantly women over 35 for sure they will need a period of 2-3 years to study and improve their English to a good standard that will make them feel comfortable.

Some of these ladies also think just because they had a good paid job in the FSU, especially those from Moscow that also speak good English that by coming to the west and I am talking about the circumstances in the UK, they will have no problem finding a job at the same level as in Russia, which is wrong!
Sorry to disappoint you but local employers if they have to choose between a local person and a Russian lady of the same educational level, for sure they will opt for the local person, because of the language and makes no difference how well you speak English. Many or most of them will discriminate against you because of that, not permitted by law in the UK but........ they can choose whoever they like to work for them! FACT.
So in my view it is very important to make every effort to improve your English to a very good standard to improve your chances in getting a job soon.
My friend
Moby called me a
Cave man because I was pressurising my wife to learn English by studying and watching ONLY English TV and cutting down the time that she spoke Russian, to help her progress and the fact is that Hanna does speak good English but not good enough to try and get a job as a Teacher of Mathematics, in a secondary school. To be able to do that she must take an IELTS test and achieve level 9 + but last time, nearly 2 years ago, she took a test at Guildford University she achieved level 6 and I expect by now she is around 8 Level but still not good enough to become a teacher of Mathematics.
We have recognised officially her Bachelors Degree in Maths, but she still has to go through training that takes between to 2-3 year before becoming a qualified teacher. Salaries for Qualified new teachers start at around £22K, so early we analysed the situation and made a decision that she has to lower her standard and try to find a lower type of Job. Then I came across a vacancy for a centre for children with Learning disabilities, she applied and got the job, the centre is only 15 minutes walking distance from our house. Taking into consideration Travelling and other expenses that she doesn't have to pay now, it appears that she is paid well enough to be comparable job to a young qualified teacher and her previous experience was appreciated. She is a permanent staff and has been working there for over a year and a half.
On Friday she came home showing me one of these training diplomas for her job and it transpires that out of 8 trainees that took the course in the past 6 months, Hanna was the only one that passed with flying colours, the other's have to retake the tests again.
I am sure you do realise the boost in her confidence that her achievement gave her.
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I suggest that when you are making plans with your lady try make her to understand that it is important first to learn very good English to boost her confidence and also to realise the facts and lower her expectations, if she wants to be able to find a job quickly.
I remember talking on Real Russia to a lady who was University educated and she started working as a cleaner and then in a couple of years managed to get a very good paid job in the advertising business. She told us that she was proud to work as a cleaner making her living and then to move up the ladder.
The fact of the matter is, as that American chap said:
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It becomes easy to understand why problems might arise given the disparity between reality and expectations.
Don't make the mistake that because Russian women are sophisticated and intelligent, that they are somehow cold and independent. Expect civility, nor servility. Expect feminine, not feminist. With all their strength, they are still women who want a strong man to lead and protect them. But, they want that leadership in the form of compassion and example, not an iron fist.
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